Reading while dead

Reading while dead

Wednesday, 30 January 2013

Dude, where's my church?

This is the title of the endlessly mulled over internal rant I have about the modern Catholic church... of course there were always darkened incense filled corners, stuffed with statues and unquestioning obedience to the Magisterium - but I was lucky to grow up in one of the sunlit uplands of the Church where we were ecumenical, open and questioning - and more interested in the spirit of the Gospels than the 1,000 years or so of intellectual plaque that had built up on the Church's gnashers... I knew gay priests, ex-nuns, ex-priests, discalced Carmelites, theologians and all sorts of people - and no one ever mentioned the Magisterium....

If I were in the mood I could write a Joni-Mitchell parody about the glories of the post-Vatican 2 church... but it's too much like hard work - I met a very nice priest on my way back from the retreat - and of course there's the famous Marcus - who I haven't met, but basically - apart from the retreat - I haven't found my recent brushes with the church especially edifying.  I should ask Russell about this... perhaps Our Lady of Peace was too extreme and wild - Woodard used to get tsk-tsk'd at by other priest - but it always seemed to me the right sort of Catholicism... I don't remember getting much of the "we are special because we're Catholics" sort of talk that I've heard in the last year.  I think one or two of the nuns at school might have tried it on, and been slapped on the wrists - after all, not everyone was Catholic.

I don't think it's my imagination - the Morgans agree about this, and John, the irritating school governor, used to say that the liberals had left, and all that remained were the nutters...(and the simple faithful I suppose).  Much as I love Strat, I can't help wondering whether converts were slightly to do with this - there was a wave of high-profile converts in the 80s & 90s, and I wonder if there were larger numbers of low-profile converts as well - who all "went over to Rome" with great zeal to adopt it at all its most ludicrous levels.  What I think was happening at my church in the 60's and 70's and 80's was an attempt to live a gospel-based version of Catholicism - and strip away a great many of the extraneous ritual bits - now it seems that people just want to wrap themselves in the rituals and snuggle up in them.  I liked this quote by a guy called Roberto Riciardelli:

The practical function of religion is to tell us how to transform our mind and align it with God. Outside of this, religion profits little.

I can't help feeling that the Catholic church goes beyond this. It's funny because although I used to love the idea of Latin masses, now I find them rather grotesque - they are detached from the people, it becomes about the style not the content - you don't hear the words in the same way... depressing, even for someone who does understand the Latin.  I guess I've always been a more questioning person than was comfortable for the Church or myself - most people who ask too many questions usually end up reversing out quietly... or not so quietly.

Eating memories

Just read some interesting research in Scientific American 
http://www.scientificamerican.com/article.cfm?id=eat-less-by-altering-your-food-memories&WT.mc_id=SA_WR_20130130
 about how people feel about what they have eaten.  Basically it showed that after a meal you felt sated, or otherwise, in a realistic way - however, when you began to feel hungry your hunger was proportional to how large the portion you thought you'd had (there was some interesting work with trick soup bowls to make people feel they were eating less/more than they actually were to achieve this).  So, in short, if you feel you had a slightly inadequate meal earlier, you feel "hungrier" later.   It was suggested that if you took a picture of what you'd eaten this might help you feel you actually had had enough and didn't eat more, since a memory of one's last meal seemed to discourage "hunger".

I'm putting hunger in quotation marks, because it's clearly something more complex than the simple physical hunger i.e. "I'm running low on inputs" - but is to do with all sorts of complex psychological things - including, I suspect, entitlement (this wasn't in the article) because I think a lot of those of us who diet have issues about when and whether we are allowed to eat, and seek justification for it "well it is supper time/I haven't had anything for 6 hours/I only had 3 canapes at lunch time/I've been out all day and missed lunch...." etc. etc.

I've noticed since doing the WW thing that if I haven't had many points in a day I tend to feel hungrier, I am ravenous as I write this, but I know I had a perfectly adquate supper (lots of cabbage AND spinach) and felt very full afterwards.  I must try to think hard about that vast pile of vegetables... and fish (God, I don't believe there's anything you can do to make pollack really nice that doesn't involve a lot of fats and calories... However, as I lost 5.5lbs in the last fortnight (the Christmas weight), and look set to achieve my modest birthday goal, I think for the first time I might actually go beyond the usual system of losing 2 stone, then losing interest, then putting it on again.  .

At the moment, I feel quite happy about my level of weight loss - and feel much more sorted about my eating habits than I have in the past - as long as I am not lured out of them with a gin at 6.30pm.

Monday, 28 January 2013

Drink taken

I feel rather good about today - I edited a lot, I had a little snooze, then I edited a bit more.  I looked at the plot, there seemed to be "plot points" at all the right places, if we are working on the 3-act structure (which I think seems a bit stupid for a literary novel).  I had lunch and then beavered away, and then we had tea, watched the Simpsons and made supper.

It all went horribly wrong before supper.   M offered me a drink, in my inner theory we don't have pre-dinner drinks except at the weekend - and we only drink wine at supper during the week if there's a bottle already open, or we have visitors.  HOWEVER, I had a gin, and another - and then some really delicious Gaillac (where did we get it?) and some more Gaillac - followed by a drunken ramble across the pages of Fb and Twitter -  it's pleasant, but I know I will feel lethargic tomorrow, and that's annoying.  I don't want to feel lethargic, I want to be fit and bouncy again.  Grrrr.

Sunday, 27 January 2013

Liking weekends

I had a long phase of bad weekends, but now I am liking them again.  This weekend was great, because instead of being imprisoned indoors by poverty, we went out.  We had lunch in the Caboose - and saw the Hilliers (Jim's project is to re-read Lenin this year - like the catechism? Or the Bible?) and Tony Roche, who is always nice to talk to - then went to the pop up shop and watched some friends buy things... lovely velvet coats mostly - had chat about the care and control of adolescent boys with a fellow mother, and the gallery owner Mike - ex-army, artist, interesting perspectives, then met the other Kate H in Waitrose.  

We went to Quartet with Sheree- it was predictably heart-warming, lovely music - setting - acting, but the writing was a bit thin I thought, and a bit complacent.  The plot was lacking - it could have been made much more emotional and thrilling by a couple of small changes... there was a very touching moment when the characters hold hands - his hands have that old man sausagey look - but very consoling to think love can survive several decades of insult.  I didn't think much of the script - there were good jokes, but it was thin, and with a bit of tugging could have had more emotional impact.  But maybe it was deliberately left "realistic" maybe the things I was thinking of would have made it over the top...

The great thing about the weekends is that feeling that one doesn't have to ring clients, HMRC etc, and one can get up late.  Today finally washed hair, then fiddled around on internet for a while - researching a restaurant for my birthday... I half thought of having people over, but I knew that half way through cooking I would be saying to myself - "Why am I cooking for all these people - I should be being given treats"  what a lovely unselfish person I am!

Last year on my birthday we went and got fish and chips and opened a bottle of good wine - Sancerre is really nice with fish and chips - tho' I'd prefer a Rully or a Batard-Montrachet if I could get one... because a lot of cheaper Sancerre is a bit too flinty.  However, this year, we are wavering between eating in the local Russian/Estonian/Byelorussian restaurant...cheapish, and does pancakes (v. important for the boys) and splashing out and going to Eddie Gilberts which has become good again (not so good for boys, as mostly fish) or driving down the mirky lanes of the marshlands to find the Red Lion again.... dunno.  Does it matter?
Actually it does, I would like to have a lovely evening - and not feel (a) we wasted a lot of money (b) the food was terrible.... we'll see.  Perhaps there will be another option, as we eat out so seldom now, I guess it seems more important that it is really nice.

Maybe we could have fish and chips and Sancerre again - it's so long since we had a takeaway that even that would seem a considerable treat.  Maybe we could (M & I) go out for lunch somewhere good - and do something more fundamental in the evening... or enough already!

Finally planted about half the bulbs, the garden is disgustingly muddy and a bit grim, still have about 30 tulips and daffs to put in.  It's a bit like being a squirrel, you bury bulbs, then you put more in on top because you've forgotten where you put the first lot... This year I will launch a snailicide policy early - last year too many daffs had their faces eaten off them before their buds had opened, and some irises and alliums never got to flower at all.

It was nice to be out in the garden - there were elwesii snowdrops, hellbores, clematis iberica and lonicera fragrantissima in flower.... and vinca alba and symphytum ibericum.  The lonicera tartarica has put out a flower - about 2 months early, but has thought better of it.

Saturday, 26 January 2013

Sunshine!

At last, proper sunshine - and we are going out to downtown Ramsgate - have a drink at the Harbour Bra(sserie) and see Suzy's pop-up shop.  We have enough money for a drink or two - maybe a sandwich, and a trip to the cinema to see Quartet tonight.  What's not to like?  Local life at its best - and it's only January.  I might even plant a few bulbs before I go!

Only, I was stopped in my tracks by the fact that I hadn't washed my hair - but I want to get out and go and suddenly the thought that I had 3 alternatives (out, bulbs, hairwash) made me go all peculiar - couldn't decide which to do, so sat down and blogged.  Oh God!  How useless is that?  I'll get up now and have another go - hair can wait till we return - and bulbs can be tommorrow (there will be more sun!).  Phew!  Pleasure scheme revised, all is well, and should distract me from errant thoughts of forbidden subjects.

Thursday, 24 January 2013

Getting better...

This has been a week or so of crisis - chiefly financial.  The short-term issues (not enough money until next payment - due end of February - if M finishes the b*&^(dy report.) were resolved by cash from my father and sister C, and a cheque from sister P.  This means I can buy mince and catfood without panicking unduly.  The boys don't seem to mind the regime of beans, corncakes and endless pasta... well, Ned's not crazy about beans - but he can cope... it is amazing how far the contents of the freezer will go - although I did succumb last week and bought some frozen chicken breast and this week I bought some mince (2 meals) and a chicken (I need the bones for stock - we are living off soup just now).   Actually, I made a great discovery - chicken livers, a small amount, finely-chopped, make a good addition to meatballs - Finn had a yearning for spagh and meatballs, so I made some for tomorrow - used the rest of the mince for bolognese - to be frozen for 1 lasagne and 1 spag bol.

My anxieties about money have been relieved in many ways - some things have come as an answer to prayer - like a rush job for Mark which will cover the cost of the tax bill... But it is appalling how paralysed one becomes with anxiety.  When there's a crisis, I am of course, superbly calm and rational and plan furiously what to do - and do it.  But I don't seem to be able to cope with the permacrisis/omnishambles that our life has been in the last 2 years.  I'm sure it has roots that go beyond that - I probably started taking my eye off the domestic ball once I started writing all the time.  I've spent nearly 4 years in a fuge state that I find it hard to leave.  Is it the hypnotic effect of the screen - or the completely unintellectual drift of my brain as it delves into intuitive/creative bits - making actually, dreary old frontal brain thinking seem rather boring.  All the time I find myself thinking how I've limited myself in my writing, how I could write so much more, open up more, look at things I don't want to look at, be so much more extraordinary.  But I am plugged into my relatively "ordinary" novels - and maybe that's where I'll do best.  If I wrote something strange and extraordinary, it might never get published (although, to date, the ordinary ones haven't either).   I really must start sending out  TRF again - when Tara has finished mulling it over!

Sunday, 20 January 2013

Snowed in/toed in/family time

Of course we're not snowed in - 10-15 cm snow doesn't do that - but our road is a small one and no one brings salt and grit down here, so we tend to find it difficult/dangerous to move our cars.

It has been snowing all day - i.e. since I woke at 8.00 when it had already begun to settle, until about an hour or so ago.  Finn is very much hoping not to go to school tomorrow.  Our house, being old and not endowed with really hot central heating or double glazing, tends to be cold.  This morning I spent a happy time on a symptoms website - I looked through about 20 different possible explanations for my toe pain and boiled it down to 3: osteoarthritis, peripheral neuropathy and matatarsalgia (this is a funny one - it means: metatarsal pain - I suppose it's one of those catch-all things GPs can tell you - and it means very little, but sounds serious).  GP's hate patients who have Latin & Greek degrees I imagine.   Anyway, since it isn't red, warm and swollen, I can dismiss gout as a possibility, which is a relief.  My foot was numb and hurting a lot, a combination I never understand - how can it be numb and painful?  Surely the lack of sensation ought to block the pain - this simply indicates how little I can understand the nervous system.   I thought this would stop my walking about, in fact, I think it helped.

I spent a long time in the kitchen (bread, soup, triple-cooked chips, sponge pudding).  I also spent an hour or so painting the anaglypta wallpaper on the stairs, I painted it yellow up to the first floor and then I painted the white undercoat onto it as I reached the purple anaglypta.  Mark painted the purple ceiling.  It all looks so much brighter now, even though it's far from finished.    Then we had tea, a fire and watched Blandings which is a slightly silly tv adaptation of PG Wodehouse - with some very good actors, and then into the kitchen for steak, triple cooked chips and sponge pudding.  The chips were amazing - not perfect, but really wonderful.  We had pre-dinner drinks and crisps and generally had a nice Sunday evening.  Boys are now washing up - and then we are going to watch Finn's DVD of Up.  I think this idea of making Sunday evening a particularly special family time is a good one.

There is something good about this weather: the warmest place is under the duvet, so we've been under the duvets and watching films.  Last night we watched Good Night & Good Luck, a wonderful George Clooney film which I cannot imagine ever being made without him - Syd Field would not doubt have had something to say about the story arc!  But it was real life - so no one bothered about a story arc!   This was followed by Les Liaisons Dangereuses:  cinephiles will be horrified that I have never seen this film (the Malkovich/Close version) but I have read the book and seen the Christopher Hampton theatre adaptation twice so I didn't feel a pressing need to see it, especially when I don't think Malkovich is my idea of Valmont - or Glenn Close my idea of Mme La Marquise either... whereas Alan Rickman...and Lesley Duncan were superb.  But it was a good enough second feature - and I especially enjoyed Peter Capaldi as Valmon't valet.

So today I missed the beauties of Rammers in the snow - but I did some useful and home oriented things - must be Mars in the 4th house!

Saturday, 19 January 2013

Ageing news

I think something I might try and deal with occasionally is the ageing process.  Obviously it begins in earnest in one's 50's, and periodically I have a mini-crisis which makes me feel really weak and ancient.    Because of losing weight and feeling more active, recently I haven't suffered much age-related angst, but all it needed was a toe collapse yesterday for me to revert to this state.  My second toe on my right foot began hurting when I was walking home, there was a little pop of some sort and it began to hurt when I put it on the pavement.  I limped about Waitrose and bought some food, but succumbed and asked M to come and collect me.

After that I didn't notice much, but this morning it was hurting again - a sort of ache, and numbness.  I decided to try and work out what it was - but while I was briefly intrigued by the prospect of bursitis, terrified that it might be gout, or neuropathy, in the end I couldn't quite diagnose it.  None of these are terribly desirable ailments, I worried that it was arthritis - I occasionally get mild arthritic pain in my little fingers, so the toes struck me as another possible site for it.  However, perhaps, and this is what I'm hoping, it's just a bit of ligament trouble - unpleasant, but not quite such a symbol of deterioration.

I am winging it, this ageing business - much to be thankful for the continuing presence of oestrogen in my system - so the skin's OK, and there are occasional spots of blood to show it hasn't all packed up completely, so I'm not even tempted by the thought of HRT.  Most of the physical problems I have are connected with being overweight - and that is slowly being sorted out.  So although I sometimes feel twinges, most of the time I am in denial about it.

Wednesday, 16 January 2013

More dreams

Yes, I know other people's dreams are boring - and have been considered so since at least the 16th Century, as I discovered when I read Il Galateo  (spelling), but there's been a bit of a theme - first I dreamed a dream where I was doing normal things - but small pieces of money kept slipping through my fingers - cheques were dropped, slipped out of my hands and floated away.   Last night's dream was odd.  M and I were in a stately home gift shop - picking up lots of silly little things - but we couldn't pay for them, we were given a lot of tokens to use - but they had to be used by 4.00pm.  There was a young woman there researching for a PhD - she had research tokens and failed to cash them in and somehow lost her day's research.  We didn't have a disaster with ours, but there was a great anxiety.  Then we wandered around and found a room where a jazz band was playing - something by Miles Davis - one of the musicians flunked out and I found the rather good music was being made by me - on what looked like a clarinet, but sounded like a trumpet.  I was playing quite effortlessly - or rather my fumbling efforts were producing a clear, beautiful sound.  At the time I was anxious but when I woke up I felt rather positive about it - perhaps it is saying that my attempts to get things right are bearing more fruit than I realise and creating something good.  Well, I hope that is what it was saying.

Monday, 14 January 2013

Constructive

OK, I admit, haven't taken down all the decorations yet - I'm maintaining that liturgically it is still Christmas (till Candlemas) so it doesn't matter!  I have tidied up the kitchen a bit, but I haven't done the tax - and so on.

Things have looked up a bit - yes, we still have virtually no money till the end of February, and the potential Australian visitor proved to be a time-waster - so goodbye £75... sigh!  But on the plus side, we have a small, quick job - about £1200 - which is good, and some other stone related work, and we will probably get the Hammill job, although they aren't going to like the expense (not our fault - KCC specifications rule).  It doesn't improve the immediate prospects, for the next 6 weeks or so, but it does mean that the medium term prospects are better, and that if we get the Hammill job, we should be able to keep going until August.   Nevertheless, I still think the economy drive now is a good thing - it will teach us all to take our resources more seriously - and that we can't just borrow every time things go wrong.   If used carefully, we might manage to actually save some money this time - as long as the tax bill isn't too awful.

And I have had a constructive day - re-writing and adding more dialogue to the novel - in a desperate attempt to make it less narrator driven.  And we will have a delicious meal of left overs soon too - so all is well!

I feel almost cheerful - having felt desperate yesterday.  There was snow last night - the crab apple tree looked as if it had been sprayed with crazy foam.  Although it was a grey, dim sort of day, it didn't depress me, and I think praying, and talking to M helped somehow.

M's father seems very ill - M was upset after he saw him yesterday, he thinks he won't last another month.  I had an idea at the end of last year that someone might die in January, but then again, I have these ideas occasionally, sometimes they are right, well, I was right about my mother.

Wednesday, 9 January 2013

Back to work/Creative visualisation

Creative visualisation is all very well -  but it's a bit useless and the reality is often disappointing!

Last week, before the End of Christmas Party, I saw myself bouncing up on Monday to the bank to sort out finances etc. then I thought I would tidy away all the Christmas stuff. Then I imagined I would get to grip with planting the last few bulbs.  On Tuesday I was going to be getting back to the books.

Life is what happens when you're making other plans, and life engineered a car break down, some wet miserable weather, a hangover, and so on.  I managed to remove some of the decorations.  All the Christmas tree ones.  On Tuesday I cadged a lift to WW with Clare - we ended up having lunch (omlette and mixed veg - butternut squash, mushrooms and spinach) and frequent cups of tea and conversation.  It was very cheery and energising.  I had only put on 2.5 lbs over Christmas - so that wasn't too bad.  I was expecting to go to the Society of Authors do, but the car precluded it.  So... another evening in, somewhat marred by the fact that I felt very ill - constipated, light headed, dizzy, grumpy, aches and pains.  God knows why my bowels have chosen to misbehave - they're usually terribly reliable (TMI?) - but I read on the NHS website that it can be caused by anxiety and depression.

This morning I intended to change my plans - and work on Conscience and to submit that to 10 agents instead of submitting TRF until I'd had a little more time, and Tara's feedback... I felt the proximity of WWI centenary was a good thing for marketing purposes.  I ploughed in to read the first 3 chapters and found I'd already done some work on them - and saw that it was good.  However, halfway through the project I felt so grim I had to go back to bed.  I slept for a few hours, got up, had another row with Mark (I got up to do something about making him supper - even though I was ill!) and he started moaning at me.  He then apologised, but this is the second row today.

I am not Little Miss Sunshine just now - but he seems to be worse.  I found myself listening to him this morning and thinking "how can I possibly carry on like this?"  But behind that thought is the "creative visualisation" that things could be better in a smaller, tidier house on my own, or with Finn (Ned being off to university).  But some of the problems are related to my own anxieties, indolence - writing is more agreeable than housework - and easier to do when you're feeling under the weather.  And anyway, I have no money.  Perhaps I need to give myself another deadline - get a novel with a publisher by the end of the year or give up and find a job.   I jokingly look at job pages in the papers - there really aren't any. Maybe I should go to the private job agency in town, see if I can get a bit of temping.  We don't have any students at present, and no prospect of any.  And it's hardly peak time for tourists!  In some ways I feel as if this will be a "make or break" year - but I don't know if that's just the misery talking.

Last night I dreamed TRF was being published - and I thought "that's fantastic - that's within the two years" - this being the notional 2 years I anticipated in October 2011 - no, not anticipated "heard" - but did I hear from the deceptive voice?

Monday, 7 January 2013

Andrew Mitchell - no plebs were hurt!

I had a chat about the former Chief Whip with my brother in law.  He says with blazing integrity that AM did not say "pleb" - and that my ideas of him are based on what I knew of him 25 years ago, and that people change in 25 years.

I recognise the truth of this - I also see that the wind is blowing in AM's favour now that peculiar and deceitful police behaviour has been detected.  I am open to believe he did not say "pleb" on this occasion, although I wouldn't have been surprised to hear him use the word 25 years ago.  I am also surprised that he admits "swearing at" the policeman.  Why is this acceptable exactly?  And how is it more acceptable to be rude than to be class-conscious?  

The Final Day of Christmas

Photo

Several people said they were feeling a bit low about the end of Christmas - and that it was great to have a last party to look forward to. I'd said end Christmas with a bang, not a whimper, on the invitation. Everyone said how lovely the house was - all the candles - it is quite magical to have a room completely lit by candles - and the fires and the decorations, the ivy and evergreens withering on the mirrors etc.  We had a great mix of food and booze, since people brought left overs - or bought stuff especially - so lots of cheese and cake... which we didn't get through.  It was a very happy-making party - and we thought about all sorts of other future social events - and Sue even invited us to one in February - so more to look forward to.

Had some terrifically enjoyable conversations with people - those sort of warm bonding conversations which aren't intellectually stimulating necessarily (though they can be), but where you discover shared values - or feel stronger affinities with friends.  I think we are so lucky to know so many good people - ridiculous to think that the room was full of people I didn't know about at Christmas 2008... The only people at the party I knew then were Catriona and Michael... Robert - who now qualifies as almost our oldest Ramsgate friend - couldn't make it.  Others couldn't make it, and I am feeling guilty about people I omitted to invite - rather than excluded.  No one was deliberately excluded, I even asked a few people I didn't really want  (but fortunately they couldn't come) rather than exclude them.   But there are people who are not on my mailing lists.   Another strange feature was that a lot of my closest 1:1 friends, apart from Clare, Denise and Kirstie, couldn't make it for various reasons  - but it all seemed to work perfectly.  There was an interesting incident of middle-aged drunken groping... most unusual and indiscreet - but with quite a happy backstory to it - so have to hope it will have a happy ending and not be something he regrets in the morning!  It would be great if it worked for them both.

Considering how poor and miserable we have been feeling in the last few days - especially since the car broke down again - it was a very warm, rich-feeling party.  No champagne or caviar - but emotionally rich.  Ooh - I'm getting all Charles Dickens now - almost feel a quote from A Christmas Carol coming on.  Of course we are not "poor" in the classical sense - just intensely cash-strapped.  We must have faith in better times, and that we can earn money ourselves, rather than await inheritances - which is pretty sick.

Clare took a the wonderful photo of our tree/window/lights... might have to use it as our Christmas card next year!

Still a bit hungover - haven't removed all the decorations yet - but HAPPY!

Friday, 4 January 2013

Post Christmas omne anima triste sunt...

It's still Christmas - Day 10, and we are enjoying it on the whole, but I have begun to feel depressed.  When I began the Christmas "holiday" I was reluctant - I was taking my novels by the throat and shaking them up and looking forward to getting on with them.  The appalling financial situation we are in (£1200 to last until the end of February!) is a very marked source of depression.    (OK, there'll be some little bits to add in, but it's not enough to pay the mortgage or the tax bill).   And of course, there is no clear indication what piece of work will come in next - so we'll find ourselves with 2 month's money - but no real indication of when the next bit will arrive.  It's always been difficult, ever since we started the business - but in the past we had the cushion of credit cards behind us - and we had savings too.  We have neither now - I do save a little every month - but every two or three months we are called upon to use that money.

I have sworn not to borrow any more money from Ned's account.  There is a big part of me which knows something will turn up - something always does and God's never failed us yet - but if my faith is being tested, then I'm continually failing.  Actually, a lot of the time I am optimistic and not too worried, but the last two or three years have really tested my resilience, and the thought of another year like this gaping ahead of us with more fiscal voids and uncertainties is something I can barely believe is happening.   But we are living in the "new normal" - there is less work around.  Surely, I think, surely the government will do something to encourage housebuilding as a way of stimulating growth - which will help that side of the business.  But "stimulating growth" is an alien concept to this government.

And now, the weather...

Fiscally, when things are bad, we can barely afford to leave Ramsgate (an occasional trip to Margate for art and Pegwell Bay for nature can be allowed), and being trapped in Ramsgate is no good at all. I need to remember that I live in a house full of books and music - five minutes' walk from a library, three minutes' walk from a really good art gallery (since November) and that stone walls do not a prison make, nor iron bars a cage - I still have intellectual freedom, but there is something a bit like adolescence now - stuck in the house, with people who are fond of me but also rather angry with me. Ned was so negative about the food last night that I began to cry and he said "Don't give me that!" or something similar.  I quite like lentils etc., and we are going to be eating a lot of them - so it isn't a great problem for me, but having to struggle to sell this idea to Ned is just the bitter end.  I think it is unfair of him to be beastly like that.  I so seldom cry.  I am spending all my time controlling my sorrows, repressing them - and actually, I don't usually write them in my blog - I have another place for this.  But I am quite angry really, and the depressive feeling is because I can't do much about it.  But quite frankly, would being able to afford to go to London or Oxford or somewhere more agreeable for a day make much difference?

I think this year I do not feel 2013 is a "New Year" - it is simply the continuation of 2012 by other means, and 2012 started absolutely brilliantly - it was so exciting - and then it tailed down into disappointment.  Then again, I finished another novel - something I had longed to do - and I am really in a better situation than I was this time last year.  It just doesn't feel that way.  I don't think 2013 can get worse, if only because I will be more inured to the misery of the unpublished novelist's life.  But as M says - I am in the top 0.1% of unpublished novelists - I have two novels, I have had one of them taken seriously by a good agent, it is getting around.  It will happen in the end.